Beyond Happy Episode 170: Stop Pretending Everything Is Okay

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The coach for moms called to business and host of the podcast BEYOND. I'm on a mission to help you grow as a person. 

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One thing that consistently holds us back from feeling better as ambitious moms called to meaningful work outside motherhood is that we’re really good actresses. We carry a belief that we need to pretend that we’re okay – that’s everything is fine – even when it’s not.

So many of us resist the reality of how we are feeling in our everyday lives because we don’t want to complain. We feel grateful for all that we have in our lives – and we feel guilty for feeling terrible much of the time. We don’t want to admit to the thoughts we think and the feelings we feel because we fear what that means about us. Are we ungrateful? Selfish? Are we inadequate – incapable of pursuing the work we’re called to while still keeping our faith and families a priority?

The truth is that we’re human. And sometimes, the expectations we have for who we should be and how life should feel are far from reality. Motherhood is hard. And motherhood as a mom building a business or career is also hard – but just because it’s hard, doesn’t mean it isn’t possible. Just because it’s hard doesn’t mean it isn’t worth it.

In this episode, I want to empower and encourage you to stop pretending. Avoiding problems or sweeping them under the rug and acting as though everything is “fine” is a recipe for a life that feels like just going through the motions and missing out on what matters most.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How pretending everything is okay keeps you stuck
• Why we’re afraid to admit that “something needs to change”
• Why we pretend we’re not struggling
• The first step in getting your life back and feeling better

We also talk about:

DESIGN YOUR YEAR – the live planning event for creating an intentional 2022.

Design Your Year is going to help you rethink what’s working well and what isn’t so that you can get clear and create MORE of what you want in your life, and less of what you don’t. Over four days, I’m going to guide you, combining both mindset and strategy as you design an intentional roadmap for 2022. This isn’t so much about new year’s resolutions as it is about what you want to DO in 2022 and who you want to become. You can join Design Your Year and focus on your personal life only, your business or career or ALL of the above. You’ll get the white space to think and dream and determine what you want to focus your time, energy and attention on most. And you don’t have to do it alone.

Design Your Year kicks off on December 6th which means before you even step into the holidays, you’ll going to have made decisions and put plans in place to make 2022 your best year yet.

The new year has never looked better. Join Design Your Year Today at

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This is the podcast for moms called to business as creative entrepreneurs and coaches. Through mindset and strategy, I help you leverage your faith and your beliefs to get out of your own way so that you simplify, focus and build a business that serves you, your family and your clients well – a business run with integrity that creates both income and impact. Around here, we go beyond the surface and dive deep into what matters most. We talk about mindset, faith, motherhood, money, marketing, messaging and more. So much of why you were called to business is because of who you’re becoming along the way. As your coach, my job is to help you grow your business. My mission is to help you grow as a person.


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