BEYOND Podcast Ep. 279: Can’t Figure It Out? Find the Problem Beneath the Problem

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The coach for moms called to business and host of the podcast BEYOND. I'm on a mission to help you grow as a person. 

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Stuck on a problem you just can’t figure out? It could be that the problem at the root of your struggle is below the surface, and you’ve been solving for something more on the surface.

Problems are a part of life. You and I and every other person we know is navigating life with his or her own unique set of problems. A lot of my 1:1 work with clients is about this very thing: solving problems. Working through things. Figuring out a better way to think, and/or a better way to do something. And something that has become really clear to me over the years – whether I’m the coach or I’m the client in the scenario – is that there are layers to problems. There are what I call “surface-level problems” and then there is the underlying problem that THAT surface level problem is more deeply rooted in.  Often, a client may come to me believing they need help with one thing, only to find out that at the root is an entirely different problem that needs their attention.

Another way of putting it? There’s the problem, and then there’s the problem BENEATH the problem. Getting to the root of the problem is what’s required in order to solve for it in a way that creates lasting change. This is the reason the perspective of someone else – a mentor, a coach, a therapist – is SO valuable. Because often, we’re so IN our lives, we’re so engrained in our problems that it can be hard for us to separate the surface-level problems from the deeper ones. It can be hard for us to see what we can’t see.

On this episode of BEYOND, you'll learn:

  • How to distinguish "surface-level problems" from the problem beneath the problem

  • 4 types of problems we commonly navigate, and the antidotes for each

  • Why we might find ourselves in the middle of a life that looks and feels very different than we thought it would

  •  The role of storytelling in the creation (and solution) of a problem
  • The value of outside perspective in getting to the root of a problem

  • 3 questions to ask yourself to gain clarity in problem solving

When you feel stuck, when you can’t figure something out or can’t seem to move beyond something, get curious and start to look for what might be the problem BENEATH the problem. This is often easier for us to do when we speak into the lives of other people, like our kids, than it is for ourselves. Be patient, get curious. Ask questions.

How we respond to the problems we face and how much we trust in ourselves to make decisions in solving those problems matters SO MUCH when it comes to being the kind of moms, wives, business owners and humans we’re called to be. If you’re ready for mindset and business support that will help you simplify and create the kind of life and business you’re excited to wake up to, the kind that serves not only your clients but you and your family well, if you’re ready to go ALL IN on making 2024 a different kind of year, I want to invite you to apply for private 1:1 coaching.

I currently have one available client spot to begin in January, and would love to learn more about how I could help you build your life and business well. Working with me privately is kind of like having a business therapist, marketing strategist and personal trainer for your brain all-in-one. Your next step is to apply for coaching at There, you’ll answer some questions about your business, where you are right now and where you’d like to be moving forward, and if I’m confident I can help you get there, I’ll invite you to a call where we can talk all the details and get your questions answered so that you can make the best decision for you.

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This is the podcast for moms called to business as creative entrepreneurs and coaches. Through mindset and strategy, I help you leverage your faith and your beliefs to get out of your own way so that you simplify, focus and build a business that serves you, your family and your clients well – a business run with integrity that creates both income and impact. Around here, we go beyond the surface and dive deep into what matters most. We talk about mindset, faith, motherhood, money, marketing, messaging and more. So much of why you were called to business is because of who you’re becoming along the way. As your coach, my job is to help you grow your business. My mission is to help you grow as a person.


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